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Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson

Do you find that you get along better with certain people rather than others? It is easy to talk to some of your friends; you always found the right words and everything just flowed smoothly. There were never any conflicts, and you liked one another.

With other people, however, everything just went wrong. What you say fall on deaf ears, no matter how you conduct yourself. We call them idiots, but it’s really because we don’t understand them. This is because 

Everything you say to a person is filtered through his frames of preference, biases and preconceived ideas. What remains is ultimately the message that he understands. It is very rare that the entire message gets through exactly as you conceived it in your mind. 

Surrounded by Idiots

I recently read the book ‘Surrounded by Idiots’ by Thomas Erikson and I learned a lot about different personality types from this book. There are many ways to categorise personality and human behaviour. This book uses the widely-used method called DISA – an acronym that stands for Dominance, Inducement, Submission and Analytic. Each of these behavior types is associated with a color – Red, Yellow, Green and Blue.

It’s important to understand the 4 different types of human behavior pattern so that we can communicate better. About 80 percent of all people have a combination of two colors that dominate their behavior. Approximately 5 percent have only one color that dominates behavior. The others are dominated by three colors.

Let’s go through each of these 4 personality types and their characteristics.

The 4 Personality Types

Red – Real Alpha  

  • Aggressive 
  • Goal-oriented 
  • Controlling 
  • Convincing 
  • Performance-oriented
  • Powerful
  • Results-oriented 
  • Intense
  • Opinionated
  • Straightforward 
  • Independent 
  • Decisive
  • Impatient 
  • Pushing 
  • Speed
  • Timekeeper
  • Ambitious 
  • Problem-solver 
  • Initiator
  • Strong-willed 
  • Pioneer
  • Innovator

A Red person is a dynamic and driven individual. He has goals in life that others may find difficult to even imagine. Reds strive forward, always pushing themselves harder, and they almost never give up. Reds are task-oriented extroverts and they enjoy challenges. They make quick decisions and are often comfortable taking the lead and taking risks. A common perception is that Reds are natural leaders. These are people who willingly take command and go to the fore. Their disposition is ideal in competitive situations such as a CEO or a president. 

Reds have no problem being blunt. When asked a specific question, they often say exactly what they think, without any frills. They have opinions on most things, and they trot their thoughts out quickly and efficiently.

Few things annoy Reds more than sluggishness. While other people may find it difficult to make a decision, Reds are prepared to make quick decisions in order to keep things moving. Once he’s decided, then it’s full steam ahead.

Reds love difficult tasks, so their level of ambition is usually boundless. The ability to manage difficult situations and challenges is the defining attribute of Red behavior.

Famous Reds: Steve Jobs, FDR, Venus Williams, Margaret Thatcher, Barack Obama and Mother Teresa.

Yellow – Heads in the Clouds

  • Talkative 
  • Charming 
  • Self-centered
  • Sensitive 
  • Needs attention
  • Communicative 
  • Spontaneous 
  • Social 
  • Inspiring 
  • Full of vitality 
  • Open 
  • Sociable 
  • Enthusiastic 
  • Adaptable 
  • Flexible
  • Optimistic 
  • Expressive
  • Creative 
  • Imaginative 
  • Easygoing 
  • Encouraging 
  • Persuasive 

Recognizing a Yellow is easy. He’s the one who’s talking all the time. He’s the one who gives answers rather than asking questions. He answers a question by telling a story that may or may not have anything to do with the issue. But it really doesn’t matter, because he will put you in a cheerful mood. Besides, his unshakably positive attitude also makes it impossible for you to feel upset for long. 

They are also very typically touchy-feely people. Like Reds, Yellows are very willing to make quick decisions, but they can rarely explain why using rational reasoning.

People with lots of Yellow in their behavior are focused on creating relationships. They inspire those around them, and the best way to achieve this is through building relationships. Yellows know everyone. They have more acquaintances than everyone else. They like everyone. A Yellow doesn’t need to know a person very well before calling him his friend. Anyone who doesn’t actively dislike them they consider to be a pal.

Just like Reds, Yellows have lots of energy. They find most things interesting, and Yellow individuals are the most curious people you’ll ever meet. Everything new is enjoyable, and a great deal of Yellow energy is spent finding new ways of doing things. Yellows want to know what’s going on. They want to be where it’s all happening, and they will make sure to be at every party. 

If there is anything that characterizes Yellow behavior, it’s unlimited optimism and enthusiasm. The Yellows’ entire being is concentrated on one thing—finding opportunities and solutions. Yellows have the unique ability to twist and turn things. To put it simply, they turn everything upside down and think outside the box. The Yellow’s intellect is very fast, which means that it can be difficult to keep up. Sometimes they can even find it difficult to explain their wild ideas.

With all their energy and optimism, Yellows are very persuasive. It’s easy for them to get carried away, seeing opportunities and solutions where others might only see a dead end. With the help of language, they really are masters at winning over people to their side. Most Yellows have a rich and varied way of gesticulating, so that they can convince you not just with their words, but with their entire bodies. But it’s not just energy and will. Yellows have a unique way of expressing themselves that sways their listeners. They often use vivid and colorful imagery when they speak, which appeals to all five senses and creates an impression that is felt by the whole body.

Famous Yellow: Oprah Winfrey, Robin Williams, Ellen DeGeneres, Pippin from The Lord of the Rings and Han Solo from Star Wars.

Green – Change is Difficult 

  • Relaxed 
  • Self-controlled 
  • Composed 
  • Modest 
  • Lengthy 
  • Prudent 
  • Discreet 
  • Reluctant
  • Conceals feelings 
  • Thoughtful 
  • Considerate 
  • Kind
  • Helpful 
  • Supportive 
  • Persistent 
  • Stable 
  • Reliable
  • Loyal 
  • Producer
  • Good listener 
  • Understanding 
  • Patient

Greens are more passive than others, they are easy to deal with. They let you be yourself. They don’t demand much, and they never kick up a fuss unnecessarily.

Greens will not offend people if they can avoid it. They’d rather not offend anyone at all. They usually strive to fit in, which makes them more balanced people. They’re ideal for calming down confused Yellows and they’re excellent at warming up Blues, who, on occasion, can be a tad too cold.

You can expect a helping hand from a Green whenever you need it. They are pronounced relational people who will do everything within their power to save your relationship. And they will invest lifelong.

They are also pronounced team players. The team, the group, the family, always comes before the individual, and I would even say that societies consisting of Greens will always take care of the sick and the weak. They will not leave a friend in need; you can call them at any time. They always offer a shoulder to cry on.

Change isn’t their greatest strength, even though change isn’t completely foreign to them. If you can simply justify the change and give him enough time, even a Green will be prepared to try new things.

If a Green says that he will do something, you can be confident that he’ll do it. If it’s in his power to deliver, he will. It won’t be done in the shortest amount of time possible, but it will show up in your inbox roughly within the expected time frame. For the Green, it’s natural to look after everyone else around them.

If your organization needs reliable employees, then hire Greens. They constitute the stable core who will do the job well. They don’t have problems taking orders—as long as the orders are formulated in an appealing fashion. Greens enjoy stability and a certain predictability in the workplace, in the home, with the family, just about everywhere.

Greens are introverts, they don’t talk just for the sake of talking. When you are quieter than those around you, it’s natural that you listen. And Greens will listen. They are interested in you and your ideas. They have a genuine ear for human problems. They might not offer any suggestions or solutions, but they understand what you’ve told them. You often find Greens in the public sector, where they help others, with no concern for personal gain.

Famous Greens: Mr. Rogers, Gandhi, Michelle Obama, Jimmy Carter and Jesus.

Blue – In Pursuit of Perfection

  • Seeks facts
  • Correct
  • Quality-oriented
  • Perfectionist
  • Scrutinizes
  • Meticulous 
  • Systematic 
  • Questioning 
  • Conscientious 
  • Conventional 
  • Logical 
  • Analytical 
  • Objective 
  • Structured 
  • Methodical 
  • Follows rules 
  • Reflecting 
  • Needs time 
  • Quiet
  • Reserved 
  • Distant 

Blues check their facts before they open their mouth. If the question doesn’t come up, it’s unlikely that your Blue buddy will say anything on the subject. He has no need to tell everyone about what he knows. But you can usually bank on the fact that what he says is correct.

Blues are impressively modest to avoid making a fuss, even if you know everything. It’s usually sufficient that you, the Blue, are clear about who knows best. A Blue may know a thing or two, but because Blues often miss the big picture, they don’t always act immediately. He knew that he knew the answer, and that was good enough. There’s also no need to cheer, applaud, or call a Blue up to the podium when he’s done something tremendous in an amazing way.

A Blue can rarely get too many facts or have too many pages of fine print. No detail is too small to be noticed. Cutting corners is simply not an option for a Blue. He would rather burn the midnight oil checking all the facts of the case than miss the slightest detail. A common misconception is that Blues are unable to make decisions, but that’s not the case. He simply had no need to decide. For him, the process leading up to the decision was significantly more interesting.

Another important characteristic Blue behavior is they’re generally very cautious. They often think safety first. Where a Red or Yellow would take a wild chance, a Blue will hold off and consider everything one more time. You need to get to the bottom of things before you act. Sometimes a Blue can even completely refrain from starting something because he can’t assess the risks. A Blue generally solves everything by creating advanced systems that manage the possible risks that may arise. The benefits of this are evident. Blues won’t be taken aback by unexpected events in the same way others would be. And in the long run, they save a lot of time.

Things can’t be allowed to go wrong. Quality is all that matters. When a Blue individual thinks his work runs the risk of being shoddy or low quality, things come to a standstill. Everything must be checked out. A Blue is prepared to dive deep to get everything exactly 100 percent correct. Blues argue that if they’re going to do something, they must do it correctly. As a very honorable and honest person, Blues usually find it difficult to lie, they will always point out the defects they uncover—even defects that may reflect poorly on them.

Logical and rational thinking is critical to a Blue. Out with all the feelings (as much as possible) and in with logic. They value logical thinking highly, but they can very easily become depressed when things don’t go their way. Few people can repeat the same task an infinite number of times in exactly the same way like Blues can. They have a unique ability to precisely follow instructions to the letter without questioning, provided they understood and approved of it in the beginning. 

It’s impossible to find arguments that a true Blue will accept. He will never be fooled; he will always get what he paid for. It gives him an inner peace because he knows he has checked everything out very accurately. Under normal circumstances, they’re very calm and balanced. Probably because they keep tabs on everything.

Many Blues I’ve met don’t say a single word unnecessarily. They are just very, very introverted. Quiet on the outside, but under the surface anything could be happening. Listen attentively when Blues do actually talk, because they’ve usually thought through what they say. It’s because they don’t feel the need to be heard. They are observers, spectators, more than central characters. They can find themselves at the edge of a group where they observe and record everything that is said. According to a Blue’s values, being silent is something positive. If you have nothing to say—keep quiet.

Famous Blues: Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Sandra Day O’Connor, Condoleezza Rice, Mr. Spock from Star Trek.

Adapting to Red Behavior 

If you want to adapt to a Red’s tempo—hurry up! Speed up! Speak and act more quickly. Look at the clock often, because that’s what a Red does. If you can conclude a meeting in half the time—do it!

If you want to have a Red’s full attention, cut the small talk. It’s vital that you’re clear and straightforward. Determine the most essential point of your message and start there.

Don’t use a single word unnecessarily. But make sure you’ve done your homework when it comes to the background. Questions may come up. If a Red senses that you’re uncertain, you’ll be grilled on the facts. Written materials should be concise and, above all, well laid out. No endless dissertations written by someone who loves the sound of his own voice. A single line jotted down on the back of the napkin will do the job.

Stick to the topic! The easiest way is to prepare your case very precisely before going into a meeting with a Red. If, in the middle of an interesting discussion, another thought pops into your head, write it down and ask at the end of the meeting if it’s okay to raise the issue. Otherwise, schedule a new meeting.

Paradoxically, Reds are the easiest to sell to. If you want to do good business, the only thing you need to do is step into a Red’s office, present your suggestions, and then ask about a deal. When a Red trusts you and has decided that you’re a decent person who can be advantageous to him, well, then he may very well start discussing cars, boats, or the latest politics. Play ball with him. But then and only then.

Deliver your opinion without blinking. In the end, you might have to concede, but never sell yourself short. The best thing you can do is place yourself in the center of the storm, telling him that he’s wrong. When a Red discovers that you won’t give in, he will turn in an instant.

Show that you work hard. You should report back regularly about what you have done and present—briefly—the result of your efforts. Be willing to take initiative. Offer suggestions that the Red didn’t ask for. 

If you really want to help Reds do better work, try to demonstrate the benefits of keeping an eye on the details. Explain that the results will be better and profits larger if they just consider a couple of small but crucial elements of the project. If you’re good at arguing, your advice will be followed.

Give examples of instances where time was lost by being too hasty. Point out the risks involved in hurrying too much. Explain that others can’t keep up, and point out that it would be great if everyone knew what the project was about. Don’t give in. Assert that not even he can manage everything himself. Force a Red to wait for others.

Reds calculate risks by constantly looking at the facts. Facts are something they understand. Give examples of situations that historically were shown to be dangerous. Prove things with facts and demand that the person thinks twice before deciding to take on a new project without first having checked the conditions.

Reds need to understand that the road to full transparency is to adapt to others. By realizing that no one can manage everything alone, they can be prevailed upon to pause and actually care about other people.

You should confront his behavior immediately. Don’t allow any exceptions; just say loudly and clearly that you won’t tolerate coarse remarks, nastiness, and uncalled-for tantrums. Demand adult behavior, and if he loses his temper just leave the room. It’s important that you never let him get his way just by barking his head off.

Adapting to Yellow Behavior

A Yellow functions best when he is happy and content. His creativity is at its zenith and all his positive energy flows. You should strive to create a warm and friendly atmosphere around him. Smile a lot, have fun, and laugh. Listen to his crazy jokes, laugh along at all his childish remarks, and kindle the easygoing and happy-go-lucky atmosphere.

Always start with the big questions. If you want to keep a Yellow’s attention, strip away as much of the minutia as you possibly can.

Yellow feels his way. He has a high tolerance for uncertainty and isn’t overly afraid of risks. Adapt to it.

Allow a Yellow to devote himself to the latest thing. He’ll love it. If you want to sell something to a Yellow, use expressions like “state-of-the-art,” “newly developed,” and “never before used.”He’ll like you because you’re so exciting and so interesting and, above all, innovative. Equip yourself with lots of energy, because it can be challenging to keep up-to-date, but Yellows will adore you. However, be prepared to be replaced rather quickly if they find someone else who is even more knowledgeable about newer things.

Become approachable. Demonstrate that you’re available; smile a lot; be sure to have open body language.

You have to know what your message is and exactly what response you need from them. You must persuade the Yellow, happy person to answer your questions very concretely.

Coordinate all appointments properly with Yellows. Synchronize your watches.

If you really want to help a Yellow get organized, make sure he gets at least some structure in his life. Help out by creating a simple list. Create a structure for him. Yellows are the ones who are most in need of structure in the form of diagrams and checklists.

Yellows like getting attention; they throw themselves into the center of things faster than anyone else. They need to understand that there are other people in the room and they have to let others enter the conversation. You may very well become enemies in the process. You’re definitely taking a risk here.

Yellows talk more than they work. They have a penchant for talking about everything they need to do rather than actually doing anything. To help your Yellow friend you need to make sure that he puts his shovel in the ground and starts digging. Push him, but push gently. Treat him a little bit like you would treat a child. Be kind but clear.

If you wish to get through to a Yellow with negative feedback, you need to be persistent. Create a friendly atmosphere in the room and find the right tone so that your criticism lands where it should. Clarity is key. Make sure to be extremely well prepared, with all possible facts to substantiate your claims. Get real answers to your questions, and be sure that he understands the message. Insist that he writes down what you have said. Ask him to repeat your feedback.

Adapting to Green Behavior

Show that you’re prepared to listen to what he is anxious about. Help your Green friend to face his fear of the unknown. Encourage him to brave things that feel scary and still move ahead.

Allow the Green his periods of peace, quiet, and inactivity. He needs to function like that.

Ease Greens’ minds by explaining every step of the plan.

If you have a comment to make about a Green’s behavior, make sure you’re careful about how you present it. If it involves criticism, you should deliver it in private. Make sure that the person you are talking to understands that you still like him, but that you believe that he and the group (work team, sports team, family, association) will function better if he changes certain things. Don’t ask him what he can do about the behavior; just ask him to do certain specific things.

If you want Greens to accept change, you’ll have to equip yourself with a good dollop of patience. Break down the process into small pieces and set aside a few weeks to persuade, win over, and spell out the particulars. You must describe the process in detail, and since no one is going to take any notes, you’ll have to go through it again, and again, and again until the message gets home.

If you want to make headway with a large group of Greens, you have to take command, get a firm hold on the steering wheel, and, in some cases, simply get into the driver’s seat yourself. They won’t get started unless you put them on the track.

Adapting to Blue Behavior

Make sure you can show that you’ve done your homework and are well prepared. And—most important—if you don’t have the answer, just say so. Acknowledge that you don’t know. Don’t offer any excuse just to get out of the situation.

Stick to the task. Work with checklists where factual matters are noted—things you can tick off together with the Blue. Don’t ask how things are going for him on a personal level.

Think through what you want to say and what you want to convince a Blue to believe. Put daydreams and visions aside. It may even be worth rethinking the kind of language you will use to talk about your plan. Skip all those inspirational speeches. Stick to the facts, and be clear.

Prepare yourself well. When you think you’re prepared and that you know all there is to know about an issue, go through it all one more time. Make sure you have answers to absolutely everything. Accept that this person might want to have more data to feel secure. Give him the details he needs in order to move on.

Be particularly meticulous in your work when trying to impress a Blue; otherwise, he will view you as sloppy and careless. Avoid criticizing Blues for taking too much time or fussing over details that may be unnecessary. Instead, praise them for their attention to detail and the superior work they do. Let the Blue understand that you are doing quality work and that you understand its value.

Remind Blues that other people have feelings. Give examples of times when he bruised other people’s feelings. Explain that he doesn’t need to express himself critically all the time. Show him that people can take great offense when others criticize their home, car, spouse, or children. Be clear and tell him that being honest isn’t an excuse for being callous. Point out that constant criticism rarely accomplishes anything.

Calmly and methodically tell the Blue that he needs to speed up. This time is precious and must be used correctly. Point to the big picture. Give him valid reasons he should go against his instincts to be slow.

Tell your Blue friend that if he has to make a decision without all the facts, he can follow his gut. This can apply to work or ordering at a new restaurant. Speak clearly and loudly to the Blue, and explain that if he doesn’t make a decision he’ll end up going hungry. Prove that it’s better to do something rather than remaining paralyzed, waiting for more information. Point out that that it’s logical to use intuition in this situation because you don’t have all of the facts.

In order to get something to happen, provide the decision maker with the necessary data required for him to make a decision about one of the candidates. Push him to make a choice. Remind him that the deadline is approaching. Point out the repercussions of delaying the decision.

You can read in depth about the four personality types in the book ‘Surrounded by Idiots’ by Thomas Erikson.

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App

Send Anywhere – The Best File Transfer App

I use iPhone iOS and my father uses Samsung which uses Android operating system. We always had problems transferring files to each other’s phones. Sending via WhatsApp or WeChat causes major image loss. It was so frustrating until I found this file transfer app called Send Anywhere.

The best part about Send Anywhere is there is no image loss. The maximum file size you can send is 10G which is more than enough for most users. Heck, my father actually backed-up his old phone and sent the whole thing to his new phone via Send Anywhere!

Not only can Send Anywhere be used between iPhone and Android, it also works between handphone (iPhone or Android) with computer (Mac or Windows).

Now let me show you how to use this app in different circumstances.

Send Anywhere – iPhone to Android and Vice Versa

Send Anywhere 1

If you want to send files and images between iPhone and Android phones using Send Anywhere, you will need to download the app from App Store and Google Play respectively.

Once both phones have the app, you can start to transfer files and images.

The person sending will select the images or files from his/her handphone and hit the “Send” button on the lower left corner of the screen.

The receiving person can start the transfer in a number of ways:

  • key in the 6-digit key after hitting the “Receive” button at the bottom of the screen
  • scan the QR code (if you are sitting next to each other)
  • click on the link in the email the sender sent you

Send Anywhere – Phone to Computer and Vice Versa

Send Anywhere 2

Sending files and images from phone to computer and vice versa is pretty much the same as between handphones. If you intend to use it a lot, you can consider downloading the Mac or Windows software.

If you are just using it occasionally, you can just use the web version. Just type “Send Anywhere” into the search engine and click on the Send Anywhere website.

To send files and images, you can upload the file or image from your computer. The receiver can receive the file or image by 6-digit key, QR code or email link.

Send Anywhere – Price

Send Anywhere is free to use. There is an upgraded Send Anywhere Plus which gives you 1TB cloud storage and 50GB file transfer for $3.99 per month. 

Conclusion

If you ever need to transfer image files or images to anyone, consider using Send Anywhere. Send Anywhere makes file transfer so effortless and stress-free. There is no image loss and image quality is awesome.

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Dating

How to Be a Caring Guy 暖男

暖男 which means “caring guy”, is a highly sough-after attribute that women look for in a guy. Every women wants to find a man who will care for her and you want to show her the caring side of you while you are dating.

I believe most guys are caring by nature but many do not know how to show it. Here are 5 ways you can show that you are a caring guy:

1. Bring her a jacket if you are watching a movie

Girls like to dress up which usually means wearing short dresses. It’s usually cold in the cinema and they may feel cold. Bring a sweater so she can wear it if she is feeling cold.

2. Visit her with food when she is sick

If she is living with parents or girlfriends, she may not need you there to take care of her, but the act of visiting her in person will make her feel that you really care about her.

If she is living alone, the more you need to visit her. Offer to bring her to see the doctor and stay to take care of her if necessary.

3. Remember the small details about her

There is a saying “love is in the details”, if you can remember the small things about her, she will know that you really care about her.

For example, do you remember that she can’t take spicy food or that she doesn’t take onions? What about her allergy to prawns and her love for strawberries? Do you know what’s her favourite flower or her favourite singer?

4. Bring her food if she stays alone

I say this from my own experience.

I was staying alone back then. The then-boyfriend visited my place and left. Shortly after, he came back with two huge bags of snacks and biscuits. He was worried that I might be hungry when I am at home alone so he went to the nearby supermarket and bought me some snacks. It was such a sweet gesture. That was one of the reasons I agreed to become his girlfriend.

5. Buy her little presents every now and then

Unless she explicitly says that she hates receiving presents, every girl loves to receive presents. Presents are not only for Valentine’s Day or Christmas, you can give her a present whenever you feel like it.

It can be the bracelet you know she has been secretly eyeing on, or a cute teddy bear that you won from a claw machine. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it’s really the thought that counts.

 

If you feel that I missed out on any particular “caring guy” 暖男 trait, or you want to share with me the sweet things your boyfriend did for you that filled you with love, please comment below.

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Life

Covid-19 Quarantine at Community Care Facility

I tested positive for Covid-19 at end of February 2022 so I went to see a doctor and I was assessed to have mild symptoms (Protocol 2). My father, whom I was living with, had underlying health problems so I requested to quarantine in a community care facility.

There wasn’t much information about community care facility online. All I could find were some old newspaper articles about the quarantine centre in Expo so I thought that’s where I would be going.

I was told that someone will contact me within 24-48 hours to coordinate my transfer, but I actually got a call that very evening. A kind Indian lady told me that a driver would pick me up the next day between 9am – 12pm.

I packed my bags and the driver picked me up at 9.15am the next day in a taxi. He was wearing personal protection equipment and N95 mask, all the 4 windows were wind down as per protocol.

I ended up being quarantined in Furama Riverfront Hotel, sharing a room with another lady who tested positive around the same time as myself.

The taxi driver dropped me off at the entrance of Furama Riverfront Hotel. A staff in full PPE attire reminded me to do TraceTogether check-in and brought me to the “reception”. The whole reception hall was covered with thick plastic sheets, with a few dismal chairs by the lobby.

The staff checked my name, gave me two sheets of paper that states the rules during my stay. I was also given 2 sets of ART test kits, I was to test myself on the 4th and 5th day.

Another staff in full PPE attire brought me to my room. I think the whole floor or maybe the whole hotel has been converted into Community Care Facility. There was a chair outside each room, where the meals would be placed three times a day.

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I was pleasantly surprised by how spacious the room was. The room comes with an attached bathroom with a bathrobe and there’s even a television in the room.

The two single beds were pushed to the far corners of the room, one next to the toilet and the other next to the window sills. There was even a window, through which I could down to the barren swimming pool downstairs.

Covid-19 Quarantine at Community Care Facility 2

On each bed, there was a large white towel, ample toiletries, white plastic bags to put our trash as well as laundry bags. There was also a packet of chocolate chip cookies and a few sachets of milo.

Covid-19 Quarantine at Community Care Facility 3

The hotel serves breakfast, lunch and dinner, which were placed on the chair outside our door. We were to throw all trash into the white plastic bags provided, tie them up securely and place them outside the door.

Except for not able to go anywhere outside our room, it was an otherwise pleasant experience. My roommate was a mild-mannered lady and we talked occasionally. We shared some of our food and she didn’t snore so I was able to have good sleep.

If you contract Covid-19 with mild symptoms, do consider serving quarantine at a Community Care Facility. In fact, I don’t even mind doing it again. I brought my laptop and managed to get quite a bit of writing done. It’s almost like a retreat of sorts. Good for some serious soul-searching.

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Shopping

Scarlett Supermarket 思家客 – 裕廊东 JCube 的国货超市

Scarlett Supermarket 1

前几天我在裕廊东的 JCube 闲逛的时候,无意间发现了一间名叫 Scarlett Supermarket 思家客的国货超市。新加坡有挺多家国货超市,但大部分都聚集在牛车水和亚龙,想我这种住在东边的想买个国货还得跑大老远。现在裕廊东有 Scarlett Supermarket 思家客,我就可以随时买到我想要的国货了。Scarlett Supermarket 在新加坡已经有4间店了,裕廊东的这间是第5间。

Scarlett Supermarket 思家客简直是为我这种中国吃货而设的,里面卖的都是各式各样的吃食。那就让我向大家介绍 Scarlett Supermarket 有哪些好吃的东西吧。

Scarlett Supermarket 2

一进门,就会看到这个椭圆形的柜子,格里放着300多种小吃,20包S$5。豆干、素肉、鱼豆腐,什么都有。

Scarlett Supermarket 3

椭圆形柜子的不远处有个冷藏箱,里面有手工糍粑、红糖糍粑,还有冰糖葫芦呢。

Scarlett Supermarket 4

3种口味的魔芋爽 – 酸辣泡椒、香辣、麻辣。

Scarlett Supermarket 5

不同的三只松鼠果仁。

Scarlett Supermarket 6

不同口味的海底捞的拌饭、自热火锅,适合懒惰的现代都市人。

Scarlett Supermarket 7

我以前的同事买过这种包药乳茶,据她说巨好喝。

Scarlett Supermarket 8

看来现在中国人很喜欢喝酸奶饮品啊,这里有好多不同牌子和口味的酸奶,让你喝个够。

Scarlett Supermarket 9

这桶装的青岛啤酒也太牛逼了吧,这得喝多久才能喝完啊。罐装的青岛啤酒也很好看。

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除了啤酒,这里还有二锅头、天之蓝、水井坊、老村长等精品烈酒。

如果你不想出家门,可以在 Shopee Mall 的 Scarlett Supermarket 思家客国货超市 Official Store 购买,送货上门。

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Shopping

Threeppy by Daiso – Daiso Premium Outlets

Threeppy by Daiso - Threeppy

I had some time to spare so I decided to check out JCube where I stumbled upon Threeppy, Daiso’s premium store. Threeppy is a mash-up of its tagline, “300 and happy” because in Japan, Threeppy’s items are sold at 300 yen each.

Threeppy by Daiso - Price

The products at Threeppy are priced between S$5.80 to S$23.80. 

What you can find at Threeppy

Threeppy by Daiso - Fashion

You can find fashion accessories such as earrings and necklaces. Not the cheap plastic ones that you find in Daisy stores but legit deals with many colorful designs.

Threeppy by Daiso - Stroller Blanket

There are also home essentials such as bedsheets, big fluffy towels and even stroller blankets. Ceramic pots and home appliances too.

Threeppy by Daiso - Electronic

You can also find many gadgets such as 2-in-1 LED Holder and interior wall light.

Threeppy by Daiso - Onesie

Look at this adorable adult onesie. There are different sizes and patterns for everyone.

Threeppy by Daiso - Soft Toys

There is a whole section full of soft toys, ideal for kids and kids-at-heart.

Check out Threeppy, Daiso’s premium store with merchandise priced between $5.80 to $23.80.

Threeppy

You can find the addresses, telephone numbers and opening hours of all 9 Threeppy outlets in Singapore here.

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Review

Product Review: Ecobar Shampoo and Conditioner Bar

I have been using Asatee Rice Milk Soap with Collagen from Thai Supermarket for many months now. Not only does it work better than bottled liquid body wash, but it’s more environmentally-friendly too. I wanted to find shampoo and conditioner in bar form and that’s when I found Ecobar. Ecobar promises that all of their products are made from natural ingredients. There are no sulfates, parable and silicons. All products are vegan, 100% biodegradable and uses no plastic packaging. 

Ecobar Shampoo and Conditioner Bar
That sounds like exactly what I am looking for so I got myself a Heal + Detox Shampoo Bar and Repair and Nourish Conditioner Bar.

I like that the bars come in cardboard boxes with no plastic wrapping.

Ecobar Heal + Detox Shampoo Bar

Heal + Detox Shampoo Bar is greyish-black in color. It contains tea tree, neem, dead sea salt and charcoal (which explains the black color). You can smell a hint of tea tree. It does not foam that much but it does clean the hair quite well. The only problem is it takes a bit of time to slowly soften the shampoo. I suggest keeping it in an airtight container after use so that the vapor will help to soften it for the next use. 

Ecobar Repair and Nourish Conditioner Bar

Repair and Nourish Conditioner Bar contains coconut, sunflower and almond which explains its orangey color. It is a lightweight conditioner that does not build up excessive oils in my hair. My hair feels light after washing, but also a little dry. It is quite hard and takes a while to slowly rub it onto the ends of the hair. 

I started using both bars at the same time, the shampoo bar is almost used up while the conditioner bar is not even half gone. 

Conclusion

All in all, Ecobar shampoo and conditioner bars are great alternatives to the liquid versions. By using bar shampoo and conditioner, you are not only saving the earth but also treating your body better as they don’t contain harsh chemicals.

You can buy Ecobar shampoo and conditioner bars here. 

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Lifestyle

5个方法减轻慢性背痛

我虽然看起来很健康,但其实我已经有慢性背痛10多年了。

那时候我在政府医院工作,那天需要移一个100多公斤的病人。由于姿势不对,我听到后背传来“嗑”的一声,后背也有阵阵刺痛。但过了那一会儿,忙着忙着就忘了。过了一两个月,背痛又回来了,一直疼到现在。

这种慢性背痛最讨厌了,它时时刻刻都在折磨你,让你玩也玩的不开心,睡也睡的不安稳。

慢性背痛

我总结了我10多年的慢性背痛,总结出这5个方法减轻慢性背痛。

1. 7-8小时的睡眠

我把睡眠放在第一位,是因为睡眠对人体是至关重要的。

当你在睡觉时,你的身体会修复和补充一天中受损的肌肉和细胞。睡觉还可以放松肌肉,让劳损一天的肌肉得到充分的休息。

我们每个人都需要7-8小时的优质睡眠。你可能觉得3-4个小时的睡眠就够了,那是因为你还年轻。这样做会损害你的身体,日积月累你就会有各种疼痛。 

如果你跟我一样,经常容易睡不着,这里有几个小方法让你更容易入睡:

  • 调暗光线:电子屏幕和阳光里有较多的蓝光,蓝光会抑制人体分泌褪黑激素(也就是睡眠激素),这种充满活力的光线使你保持清醒和警觉。把房间里的光线调暗不会抑制褪黑激素,你会更容易入眠。
  • 降低体温:用风扇或者空调,可以更容易入眠。

2. 减糖/戒糖

我这里说的糖是指白糖,糖果、蛋糕和白面包里都含有白糖。

已经有很多医学报告证明白糖会使身体发炎,背痛也是一种炎症。

我还没有做到戒糖的地步,有时口馋的时候还是会吃点蛋糕和巧克力。自从我减糖以后,我明显感觉背痛减了至少一半,这就是减糖的功效。

减糖/戒糖不止能减少身体里的人炎症,还能促进新城代谢,使你变得更有活力变得更美丽。

3. 坐姿/站姿

坐有坐相,站有站相,走有走相,不止在与人交往中给人留下好印象,对我们的身体也是很重要的。

我从小就有一个特别不好的习惯,驼背。可能是因为我长得比较高不想太引人注意,走路和坐着时老是喜欢窝着。

不对的坐姿和站姿对背痛是非常不好的。当你的坐姿和站姿不对的时候,你的背部肌肉是处于紧绷的状态。长久下来,就会变成慢性背痛。

4. 拉伸运动

有的时候,可能是因为荷尔蒙的分泌或没睡好,你可能觉得那天的背特别痛。这时,你可以做些拉伸运动,帮忙缓解背痛。我试过很多不同的拉伸运动,这两种我觉得特别有效:

  1. 站立前屈式:你只需双脚张开到肩膀的宽度,上半身向地弯下,头也要垂下。你的膝盖后面会感到紧绷,背部也会有些酸疼。你可以慢慢的,脊椎一节一节的回复成站姿。做到背部不再酸疼,一般3-5次。
  2. 脊柱扭转:平躺在地上,双腿弯曲,双脚在地面上,胳膊向双侧伸直,呈现十字架形状。双膝盖并拢,向一侧倒下。默数1-10,双膝盖回到中间默数1-5,然后双膝并拢,向另一侧倒下。做到背部不再酸疼,一般3-5次。

5. 不要想它了

如果你已经尽量做到以上的几点,那就不要一直想着你的背痛了。根据吸引力法则,如果你一直想什么,你会“吸引”那样东西。如果你一直想着背痛,你不是在“吸引”背痛吗?

做些让自己开心的事,当你聚精会神的做一件事时,你就不会感到背痛了。

我把这些资讯做成了一个视频,放在 Youtube 上跟大家分享。如果你不喜欢看文字,可以看看这个视频:

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Review

Product Review: Davines Shampoo and Conditioner

It never occurred to me that the pH of the shampoo I use can greatly impact my hair, until I read this article. The article says:

Alkaline pH may increase the negative electrical charge of the hair fiber surface and, therefore, increase friction between the fibers. This may lead to cuticle damage and fiber breakage. It is a reality and not a myth that lower pH of shampoos may cause less frizzing for generating less negative static electricity on the fiber surface. Interestingly, only 38% of the popular brand shampoos against 75% of the salons shampoos presented a pH ≤ 5.0.

Maybe this is the reason I have dry hair that tangles easily? I decided to test this theory out. I searched online for low pH shampoo and Davines shampoo and conditioner is supposed to have the lowest pH, so I got myself a set to try.

Davines Shampoo and Conditioner

Davines shampoos and conditioners all have very cute names. The shampoo I bought is called Nounou and the conditioner is called Momo. 

The shampoo contains tomato extract while the conditioner contains melon extract, but I couldn’t smell either. 

This is shampoo and conditioner to nourish  highly processed and brittle hair. It is thicker than any other shampoo and conditioner I have used. The shampoo has a honey-consistency while the conditioner is thick like jam (it reminds me of kaya with greenish color). 

I have to say, it is really good. My hair feels much smoother and tangles much less after I started using this shampoo and conditioner.

The only downside is the price, it is probably the most expensive shampoo and conditioner I have used so far. 250ml of the Davines shampoo and conditioner costs around S$33 each and that only lasts at most 2 months.

Besides Nounou and Momo, there are many other shampoos and conditioners for different types of hair. You can check them out here

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Books

Mud or Stars (New Prisoner Welcome Booklet) by Peter Sage

New Prisoner Welcome Booklet

Mud or Stars by Peter Sage is not exactly a book, it is a fictional story that Peter Sage wrote when he was in jail. It is part of the New Prisoner Welcome Booklet that he designed for new inmates but I think the principles of this story is applicable to all areas of life. 

These are the 6 principles of this story from New Prisoner Welcome Booklet (I have made moderations so that they are applicable in daily life): 

  1. Everyone has grievances and unhappiness but nobody really cares about them so don’t go around talking about your unhappiness. 
  2. I always get to choose what I focus on. Mud or Stars. 
  3. Don’t cry over spilled milk, crying over it won’t make it any different. Accept that the milk is spilled and figure out how to deal with it. 
  4. Life is like a mirror. If I am angry at the world, the world gets angry with me. 
  5. Circumstances can restrict my liberty but not my freedom. No one can ever do anything to me emotionally without my permission. 
  6. Set myself up to win. Learn the ropes, get busy, set a goal.