How to Pray for Love and Marriage at Yueh Hai Ching Temple

Yueh Hai Ching Temple - Front

Many people in Singapore call Yueh Hai Ching Temple the “Temple of Love”. This temple has a statue of Yue Lao (God of Love and Marriage) which has successfully granted many love requests.

How to Pray for Love at Yueh Hai Ching Temple

When entering the grounds of a temple, it’s important not to step directly on the threshold of the main gate. Women should enter with their right foot first, while men enter with their left.

Yueh Hai Ching Temple - Hall

There are two halls in Yueh Hai Ching Temple, the Yue Lao (God of Love and Marriage) statue is in the right hall.

Yueh Hai Ching Temple - Counter

There is a counter to the left of the entrance. Tell the staff that you are here to pray for love and he will give you three sticks of joss sticks, a piece of red thread and a red envelope.

The Yue Lao (God of Love and Marriage) statue sits at the right and of the main Buddha statue in the room.

Yueh Hai Ching Temple - Outside

Follow these steps to pray for love and marriage:

  1. Light the joss sticks using the fire in the hexagon-shaped glass tower outside the hall. If there are excess flames on the joss sticks, do not blow out the flames with your mouth. Instead, flick the joss sticks to the side to extinguish the flames.
  2. Put some money into the red envelope as a token of appreciation to Lue Lao for helping you to find love and marriage.
  3. Put the red packet in front of the Yue Lao statue.
  4. Kneel on the padded stool in front of the statue with the three joss sticks in between your hands.
  5. Keep your eyes open as you pray to Yue Lao so that the God of Love and Marriage can see your face and find you when he has the right match for your you.
  6. Tell Yue Lao your name, age, address and job as well as your requirements for your future partner. Be as specific as possible so that he can find you the right person.
  7. After you have finished praying, bow three times and hang the piece of red thread on the statue.
  8. Take 2 sweets from the bowl in front of the statue and eat them on the way out. One sweet represents people and the other represents love.
  9. Put the three joss sticks standing in the urn outside of the hall.

That is how you pray for love and marriage at Yueh Hai Ching Temple. Do let me know if this has helped you to find your boyfriend/husband and I will write another post on what to do after your wish has been fulfilled.


How to Reject Someone Politely

We have all gone on dates or someone ask us out and we are not interested in the other party. Here are some tips to reject someone politely:

  1. Be honest and clear: It’s essential to be upfront with your feelings and communicate your decision to him clearly. Try to avoid giving mixed signals, as it can lead to further misunderstandings.
  2. Show gratitude: If the guy has been respectful and considerate towards you, it’s worth expressing your appreciation for the time spent together. Thank him for his interest and make it clear that you enjoyed his company.
  3. Be respectful: While you may not share his feelings, it’s important to treat him with respect and kindness. Avoid using hurtful language or dismissing his feelings.
  4. Offer an explanation (optional): You don’t necessarily have to provide an explanation for our decision, but if you feel comfortable doing so, it can help the guy understand where you are coming from.
  5. Set clear boundaries: Let him know that you don’t see the relationship progressing beyond friendship and that you hope to maintain a positive and respectful relationship.

How to Reject Someone Politely

Here are a few examples of polite rejection:

  • Thank you for expressing your interest in me, but I don’t feel the same way. I appreciate the time we’ve spent together, but I think it’s best if we remain friends.
  • I really appreciate your interest and openness, but I’m not able to reciprocate it. I know it may be hard to hear, but I’m not interested in moving forward.
  • I’m sure you’re cool, just not right for me and I’m mature enough to recognise this and be upfront about it, essentially freeing up time for both of us to find someone more fitting.
  • I’m sure you’re amazing in many ways, but I have a lot of clarity about what I want at this point in my life, and I don’t see us as a good match. Wishing you luck finding your person.
  • I know it can be hard to put yourself out there, but unfortunately, I’m not interested. I appreciate you asking and being respectful, though.
  • Thank you for making yourself available. With that being said, I am clear that this isn’t going to be the right relationship dynamic for me. I do hope all the best for you, though, as you continue your journey.
  • It was nice getting to know you. I’m looking for XX (a serious relationship, someone who shares my political values, a partner who likes to be in nature, etc), so I don’t think we’re a good match for each other. I hope you find who you’re looking for.
  • I hope you know how much I care about you and the relationship we have. I know it’s not easy to share your feelings and I admire the courage it took to let me know how you’re feeling. I don’t want to hurt you, but unfortunately, I don’t feel the same way. I understand if you feel disappointed and that this may make our relationship awkward for a bit. Take all the time you need and when you’re ready, I hope we can still be friends.
  • I appreciate your confidence in asking me, but I don’t think we’re on the same page. I’m not interested in dating, but thanks for asking!
  • I really appreciate your interest in me, but I’m just not feeling  a romantic connection between us. I hope we can still be friends.
  • You’re a great guy, but I don’t see us as more than friends. Thank you for understanding.
  • I’m flattered by your interest in me, but I don’t think we’re the right match. I wish you all the best.
  • I think you’re a wonderful person, but I don’t feel the same way. I hope we can still be friendly towards each other.

How to Be a Caring Guy 暖男

暖男 which means “caring guy”, is a highly sough-after attribute that women look for in a guy. Every women wants to find a man who will care for her and you want to show her the caring side of you while you are dating.

I believe most guys are caring by nature but many do not know how to show it. Here are 5 ways you can show that you are a caring guy:

1. Bring her a jacket if you are watching a movie

Girls like to dress up which usually means wearing short dresses. It’s usually cold in the cinema and they may feel cold. Bring a sweater so she can wear it if she is feeling cold.

2. Visit her with food when she is sick

If she is living with parents or girlfriends, she may not need you there to take care of her, but the act of visiting her in person will make her feel that you really care about her.

If she is living alone, the more you need to visit her. Offer to bring her to see the doctor and stay to take care of her if necessary.

3. Remember the small details about her

There is a saying “love is in the details”, if you can remember the small things about her, she will know that you really care about her.

For example, do you remember that she can’t take spicy food or that she doesn’t take onions? What about her allergy to prawns and her love for strawberries? Do you know what’s her favourite flower or her favourite singer?

4. Bring her food if she stays alone

I say this from my own experience.

I was staying alone back then. The then-boyfriend visited my place and left. Shortly after, he came back with two huge bags of snacks and biscuits. He was worried that I might be hungry when I am at home alone so he went to the nearby supermarket and bought me some snacks. It was such a sweet gesture. That was one of the reasons I agreed to become his girlfriend.

5. Buy her little presents every now and then

Unless she explicitly says that she hates receiving presents, every girl loves to receive presents. Presents are not only for Valentine’s Day or Christmas, you can give her a present whenever you feel like it.

It can be the bracelet you know she has been secretly eyeing on, or a cute teddy bear that you won from a claw machine. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it’s really the thought that counts.


If you feel that I missed out on any particular “caring guy” 暖男 trait, or you want to share with me the sweet things your boyfriend did for you that filled you with love, please comment below.